Surprise, I have an opinion. I think that adults buying gifts for adults is ridiculous. Why don’t we just swap $50 bills? While discussing with my family what method of gift giving we would do this year it was leaked that the person I bought for in a previous year (when we drew names) had sold the gift that I bought for them on kijiji (Canadian Craig’s List).
It was two Christmases ago, but it still hurt me deeply (and I’m still kind of hurt). I had looked and looked for the perfect gift, and I ended up going with a high end item that was roughly 15-20% over the set budget. I didn’t care about the extra money, to me it was worth it to buy her something she would really like, get a lot of use out of. That said I knew she might prefer a different style or print so I included a gift receipt, and since the high end store wasn’t located where she lives I offered to go and exchange it on her behalf and mail it to her.
She declined my offer. I don’t remember her exact words but she was satisfied with the gift. When I visited I’d observe to see if she was using it; but I didn’t see it and didn’t ask.
Two Christmases later… I’m saddened to find out it was sold. I have thought a lot about why this was so hard for me to accept. I think it’s because I would never do that, I’m too sentimental. I think that I interrupt the sale as her way of saying that she doesn’t feel an emotional closeness with me. And if that is the case then why am I buying you a gift? Just keep your $50 and I will keep mine.
– hurt Joy